a question she always asks other students when they want to meet her is “why do you want to meet me” since the environment at colleges are where people are easily judged for where/what they worked at/on instead of seeing them for who they really are
- hard to lose the mindset of meeting (and choosing not to) someone if the meeting doesn’t end up in something positive coming out of it (another meeting, connection formed, linkedin connection, or smth like that) but ends up as a learning experience that was missed cause of narrowmindedness
surround yourself intentionally, she talked about mass unfollowing people on twitter (restructuring) due to “less can’t-disagree-with-that takes from old dudes” as well as her mental health declining. suggests follow and talk to people who you want but doing so to people only cause you want them in your connection circle is not a good idea or motive to have
suggests sending lengthy, thoughtful, affirmative cold emails/outreaches, don’t try to be concise concise nor apologetic. send messages intentionally and don’t follow a template, it won’t make you different and might get you skipped - use the space you have (not a lot lot, but in moderation). doesn’t make sense to send them something that is concise if you are asking them for a favor (such as introduction, internship, etc.)
just full send
- don’t really care what others think when you cold dm them, at most they will say no
networking is having a relationsjip with others, not getting their contact information
try to find people that are not like you which can help diversify your network
find ways in which you can give others value
be different, be thoughtful in what you send
- when cold dming, be warm
- be personal, talk to them about what they have written and stuff like that shows you are paying attention to them and you arent just mass dming people, cause they would likely skip it
one thing that stuck with me was “it takes two people to start a community” which means if you find one person who you can build a relationship with, you already have started building your own community
just adding people on linkedin just to never talk to them ever again isn’t the move, you should instead have less people, but know each of them personally instead